who u are...

so I was chatting with my sis in hk and we started talking about couples. me, of course being the younger sis, kept badgering my sis's new bf whom I deeply dislike for reasons I cannot pinpoint. I just dun like him. anyhoos, I had to remind steffie to distinguish between love and lust. u can't mix up the two. a girl also has to realize when the guy is worth going for. for instance, u need to like the guy however he is - personality/traits, etc(and vice versa of course)and u urself need to like the person u become when u are with that person. besides that last point, it is very important that the guy goes the extra mile to assure your family that he is the guy ur family should trust. he should want to spend time with ur family and (well at least for our family of wong daughters) most importantly, re-assure daddy. I think I have to remember this stuff and remind myself constantly too. just cuz I dun wanna make the same mistake of neglecting my family when a new boy comes around. I guess this is a part of the learning process. all actions have consequences. if it turns out good, great! if not, u learn not to go down the same road again. I just hope my sis does not get herself in too deep and try to step out and see things from the outside in.