life is a complex.
ever wonder why people change? maybe people don't really change, it's just your perception of them that changes. well, i kno that people, for better or worse, even if it's just a little bit, change. but i don't think people really notice that sometimes when you believe someone has changed, it's not really them, but it's you. your perception has changed either because you suddenly see them in a different light, or your expectations have changed. sometimes when you are really close to someone, you may be ignorant to faults and gifts that the person has. if this realization that a person is different from what you believe them to be happens in a friendship, one can easily step back and approach a friendship differently. in relationships, this may be harder. sometimes in a relationship, one may over estimate the other to make them believe that this is their ideal mate. a friend once told me that in a relationship, if you set your ideals for a person really high, you are waiting for disappointment or trouble. i don't entirely believe that is the case. but i do understand what is meant by that. if you can approach a relationship with the right mind set (do not overestimate or underestimate the person) you can have a great relationship. i believe many times when relationships don't work out, it may be because one, or the other, or both have either over fantisized or underestimated the other. maybe when u are too close, u really cannot "see" the other clearly or maybe u just don't want to "see." sometimes people stick to their fantasy of another person in hopes that their dreams won't come crashing down on them. maybe it's like a dominoe effect. if your fantasy of a person fails, u may start to realize your ignorance in other aspects of your life, and the cascade effect goes on into other departments of your life. maybe this fantasy thing is just a protective mechanism for yourself. but how can that be since u'd probably end up to be more screwed up than before? hmmm. a tricky one. maybe i hit my noggin one too many times and am starting to just twist everything around.
so how about life itself? some people believe in fate, some don't. i believe in fate to a certain extent. i don't believe it to the point that we don't have control over our lives though. i see life as a road with obstacles, forks in the road and a variety of terrains. you are in charge of your life. when there are forks in the road, you choose which path to take. so how does my belief in fate fall in? well, i believe that we were born for a reason - to live and love life. we all start off the same, clueless and ignorant. through life we develop skills and courage that we need to conquer the path of life. the path that each person takes is unique. in the end, whether it be living with your children and grandchildren, or retired at your cottage overlooking at beautiful lake in muskoka, you were destined to end up there. i believe that the routes you decided to take in life were predetermined. someone knew you were going to take the paths you chose. you didn't though, you chose your paths becuase of certain circumstances or your beliefs in yourself. the path to your elderly age could be different though. hmm. how should i explain it? i guess i see it as one of those make your own adventure stories. you know, those books where you have choices in what you want the character in the book to do? each one leads to a different adventure? well, i guess that's how i view life, a make your own adventure. but as you can see, there are only a set number of choices in those adventures, those are what i mean by predetermined. someone knew that you were only going to choose between those few choices and nothing else, and your life will continue on with the path that you decide to take. confusing eh? i guess i'm just a little wacky in my thinking.
if you're lost, don't worry, i'm sure anyone would be lost in my confusing thoughts. if you're wondering why i decided to write about life, it's just cuz everyone has a different idea about it, and since i'm procrastinating (cuz i don't know how to do my stupid assignment)i thought it'd be interesting to write about it.
ever wonder why people change? maybe people don't really change, it's just your perception of them that changes. well, i kno that people, for better or worse, even if it's just a little bit, change. but i don't think people really notice that sometimes when you believe someone has changed, it's not really them, but it's you. your perception has changed either because you suddenly see them in a different light, or your expectations have changed. sometimes when you are really close to someone, you may be ignorant to faults and gifts that the person has. if this realization that a person is different from what you believe them to be happens in a friendship, one can easily step back and approach a friendship differently. in relationships, this may be harder. sometimes in a relationship, one may over estimate the other to make them believe that this is their ideal mate. a friend once told me that in a relationship, if you set your ideals for a person really high, you are waiting for disappointment or trouble. i don't entirely believe that is the case. but i do understand what is meant by that. if you can approach a relationship with the right mind set (do not overestimate or underestimate the person) you can have a great relationship. i believe many times when relationships don't work out, it may be because one, or the other, or both have either over fantisized or underestimated the other. maybe when u are too close, u really cannot "see" the other clearly or maybe u just don't want to "see." sometimes people stick to their fantasy of another person in hopes that their dreams won't come crashing down on them. maybe it's like a dominoe effect. if your fantasy of a person fails, u may start to realize your ignorance in other aspects of your life, and the cascade effect goes on into other departments of your life. maybe this fantasy thing is just a protective mechanism for yourself. but how can that be since u'd probably end up to be more screwed up than before? hmmm. a tricky one. maybe i hit my noggin one too many times and am starting to just twist everything around.
so how about life itself? some people believe in fate, some don't. i believe in fate to a certain extent. i don't believe it to the point that we don't have control over our lives though. i see life as a road with obstacles, forks in the road and a variety of terrains. you are in charge of your life. when there are forks in the road, you choose which path to take. so how does my belief in fate fall in? well, i believe that we were born for a reason - to live and love life. we all start off the same, clueless and ignorant. through life we develop skills and courage that we need to conquer the path of life. the path that each person takes is unique. in the end, whether it be living with your children and grandchildren, or retired at your cottage overlooking at beautiful lake in muskoka, you were destined to end up there. i believe that the routes you decided to take in life were predetermined. someone knew you were going to take the paths you chose. you didn't though, you chose your paths becuase of certain circumstances or your beliefs in yourself. the path to your elderly age could be different though. hmm. how should i explain it? i guess i see it as one of those make your own adventure stories. you know, those books where you have choices in what you want the character in the book to do? each one leads to a different adventure? well, i guess that's how i view life, a make your own adventure. but as you can see, there are only a set number of choices in those adventures, those are what i mean by predetermined. someone knew that you were only going to choose between those few choices and nothing else, and your life will continue on with the path that you decide to take. confusing eh? i guess i'm just a little wacky in my thinking.
if you're lost, don't worry, i'm sure anyone would be lost in my confusing thoughts. if you're wondering why i decided to write about life, it's just cuz everyone has a different idea about it, and since i'm procrastinating (cuz i don't know how to do my stupid assignment)i thought it'd be interesting to write about it.
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